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Post by Korana on May 18, 2004 2:07:01 GMT -5
...I still plan on being a part of this project, but I'm pulling out...im having a problem with a few individuals who apparently think im the next worst thing to slime and im sick of it...when I have done nothing at all to a few of them. Its extremely hurtful to hear/read the comments made, and I just cant do it anymore. Its not this project as a whole (matter of fact i downright luv some of you!) but the comments and people bleed over into other projects, and im getting rather sick of my feelings being hurt on a daily basis or being talked about evily behind my back.
I seriously thinking about getting my personal projects finished up and leave modding for good. A few of you have said really nice comments about my "potential" as a modder, but when i am insulted by others it just dosent even out sometimes!
I will get the shoes to you oldie as soon as i get them off my hardrive, ravynangel i will get to your clothing as soon as i can...but it might be a while (im really sorry hun im trying), if anyone else had anything they needed me to get done then please post it here so i know?
ill still check back in on a regular basis, but i dont plan on taking much more of an active roll in this untill things either settle down, or something happens to change my mind, or someone/somepeoples finally decide to step up and talk to me to my face instead of behind my back and we can come to understanding...(large hint there)
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Post by Calislahn on May 18, 2004 3:58:28 GMT -5
I'm sorry things have made you feel this way Korana I just read about it on the esforum as well. I rarely go there as the attitiudes of some members are not very nice. There's far too much flaming and nitpicking. I can see how that would get you down after a while. Well i hope things improve for you in the future and you reconsider, it's always sad to lose another modder. There's been too many leaving the community lately.
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Post by HeWhoWatches on May 18, 2004 4:33:37 GMT -5
It's extremely unfortunate Korana - it seems for each person who is friendly or supportive there are ten more who just don't think.
I'm not familiar with what's been said but it better not have been on this forum. That's a standing rule here - this place exists to give people an alternative to the bigger (more annoying) forums.
I would ignore what other people say to be honest. Do you mod for them, or yourself? I would encourage you to not give these people the satisfaction and maybe just take a break for a while; go and do something fun and forget about it.
If you really do decide to go, you have my sympathies - but I will need to know if anyone has been using this forum to upset you. I can't do anything if it's Elder Scrolls, etc. unfortunately.
Hope you change your mind. Good luck. Rob.
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Post by Bravo 1 on May 18, 2004 6:27:15 GMT -5
Well, I certainly don't think you're slime...AND you *can* mod...
*drools over his golden slippers*
...really now, don't let these people, whoever they may be, get to you; and there are always smaller, more friendly forums, like our or yours!
Well, t'would be sad to lose another modder; hope you don't go!
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Post by motoki on May 18, 2004 6:42:47 GMT -5
You know, I've felt like this more times than I can count. :/ To hell with them I say. If you quit, then they matter and they really shouldn't IMO. I know a few times here you felt disregared but it was never our intention to make you feel that way. I know it most definitely wasn't mine. I was just trying to get the mod done, but I guess I should have taken people's positions into account more. I'm used to modding without specific positions where one of us will say "What do you think about this?" or "Can you do this?" etc without real specific positions so I guess that's why I didn't really think about that. It was nothing to do with you as a person and I hope you know I wasn't trying to disrespect you by it. You're opinionated and not afraid to express those opinions, some people will always have a problem with that particularly at the ESForum. They feel like it's their solemnly sworn duty to put you in your place and take you down a notch. Then once you start to get a reputation people won't hestitate to jump on you. Well most of them are sheep so they'll wait for one person to attack and then they'll all hop on the bandwagon like a bunch of pirhana's feeding. Trust me, I know all this from personal experience. Best thing I can tell you right now is, stay away from the ES Forum for a while. If it's to the point where it's upsetting you irl then it's definitely not worth that.
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Post by HeWhoWatches on May 18, 2004 8:41:57 GMT -5
Good advice there. I rarely ever visit the ES forums. I'm sure someone who's better at maths than me could turn this into a proper equation:
Where x is the likelihood of having 1 idiot per n people:
No. of members / x = no. of total idiots on forum.
And as Motoki says, people will insist on being 'outraged' at someone if everyone else is. I guess there's a big difference between community and conforming.
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Post by SiriusSnape on May 18, 2004 8:46:50 GMT -5
Ah, c'mon! Don't let other people dictate your modding career. If I haven't learned anything else in my life, its this: you have a choice - you can either choose to let it get to you, or you can choose not to let it get to you. I hope that you choose not to let it get to you and continue with your modding. People are going to be rude and insensitive, and are going to attack others on forums and behind each other's backs. There isn't anything you can do about their behavior. You can, however do something about how you act/react to it - I hope that you will stand up for what you want to do and refuse to let others drive you away from something you like doing. I know you don't want to quit, so don't. Do it IN SPITE of what others may think about you. Your work speaks for itself, girl. Keep at it. Same goes for Spirit Wolf, too!
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Post by Korana on May 18, 2004 13:23:51 GMT -5
i appreciate it guys... okay so lemme say this- there is one person HERE who has been insulting me personally (WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING ME) behind my back, and its this person and other memembers of their little "club" that are making me want to leave, i dont appreciate being called bad names for no good reason, it hurts my feelings no matter how much logic i trouble shoot around it....so if this person comes to talk to me and gets this out of the air so i can find out what their problem is with me then i will more than love to continue working on this project. but the insults are about to make a girl go nuclear..... and motokimo, at times ive been frustrated about the situation, but iv chatted about it with you and no harm done, its annoying some times, but i know you dont do it intentionally, and i can take that with a grain of sand...its not a personal attack...and hey! on the positive side...when you do that it gives me less work and more time!
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Post by SiriusSnape on May 18, 2004 14:02:44 GMT -5
Why not just PM that person directly? Sometimes its better to be proactive and take the matter into your own hands rather than waiting around for the other person. You may get a quicker resolution that way.
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Post by Korana on May 19, 2004 6:25:13 GMT -5
im giving this person a chance to step up about this, because if i pm them it probably wont be too nice....
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Post by motoki on May 19, 2004 9:34:25 GMT -5
Seeing as you and the other person seem to be working things out via PM, I hope you don't mind if I lock this. Hopefully the two of you can work things out and if not I hope you will stick around anyhow.
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